Loosing our lovely lady
ShinyThoughts has always been about happy, colourful things in my life and despite dedicating this post to a beautiful friend who has tragically passed away, it is really no exception. I’d be so happy if you’ll read this post, be thankful for people you have and be inspired to complete your own goals.
Our friend Jenny was a happy, shiny thing like no other. If energy could ever be transferred in such a way, then her smile would have lit the very bulbs in the ceiling of the room. Never have I known anyone with the ability to express so much joy in one grin (and a cheeky nasal chortle that cracks me into a smile every time I remember it) nor speak so modestly of herself and take so much care in others, nor reduce an audience to rolling on the floor belly laughing with just one badly told joke that she got gloriously wrong.
Jenny passed away two weeks tonight after a year-long battle with a rare bowel cancer condition at just 22 years of age. When I say battle, I imply a proper fight – with that big smile and a source of positivity that can only come from some eternal magic lake somewhere, or one heck of an admirable personality like hers. With the incredible support that is her hero boyfriend, her friends and her family, she fought and fought and never gave giving up a flicker of thought. I can’t even start to fathom the sleepless nights, endless driving, parking bills at the hospital, flocks of cards to fill a room, tears to fill a pool that others have had to deal with in their day-to-day life and I’m hugely grateful towards them. Despite all this, she was inexhaustibly upbeat about every experience and promised her big geographically spread group of girl friends (who manage to virtually hug each other via the godsend that is Facebook messenger) that she would never give up.
What amazed me about this little lady is that that whilst suffering this year, she managed to complete a degree, learn to drive, pass her driving test and attend her graduation ceremony. Yes she had to move home and continue with 3D design despite appointments, fatigue and minimal support from her institution plus squeeze in lessons in a car, but she still did it, and still came out to see us if we arranged a gathering – in whatever state. She kept us informed, told us about all the interesting medical facts she’d learnt, sent us links and told us that even if there was a step back, there would always be two steps forward and never, ever a complaint. I don’t know about you, but I’m not sure I could have done that!
The message I want to give in this post isn’t sadness – it’s strength, energy, optimism and gratitude, all for you to take and make your own. Fling it far and wide! Make a thought for Jenny; what she went through and how positively and maturely she delt with it and you too can do anything, against any odd. And still make people smile.
We’re raising money for Macmillan and Cancer Research UK in memory of Jenny for those like her who benefitted so much from their work. Do please feel free to support our JUSTGIVING page by donating even a tiddly bit or sharing it around our big wonderful bloggy world – thank you so, so much!